There is no perfect relationship neither perfect partners nor individual. Hopefully, I will be able to cater the points as we will discuss a...
There is no perfect relationship neither perfect partners nor individual. Hopefully, I will be able to cater the points as we will discuss about the “Top 10 Biggest Mistakes Couples Make In Relationships”.
And as we go through it, I hope I could help you be aware of some things to be avoided. Here are 10 common mistakes couples make in their relationships:
1. You think dating is just for novices
How well do you know your partner ? Do you know each other so much that you think you’re already too cool for dating? Dating will always be part of your relationship because it’s one best way to help build stronger ties. Sometimes, you have thought that you’re too old to spend vacation alone, stroll around the plaza, or watch together each other’s favorite movie and laugh.
Always remember that getting to know each other takes a lifetime and you still have a long way to go!
2. You forget your individuality
In most cases, as I call it – before you met each other, “you were a thousand pieces intact”. Unfortunately, when you met that someone (you wished to be with) you unintentionally left your world – yourself. This should not happen, because as you wanted to share each other your differences, it can also give you some things to explore together. You should create more wonderful memories than actually forgetting the ones you have from the past.
You should hang out once in a while with your officemates, friends and families and never stress yourself out on the corner envying those who’s into relationship but still enjoys the company of their friends.
YOU [as an individual] are absolutely amazing! Please, do not forget that.
3. There’s no room for you to speak openly and just be
As we are made unique one from another, we have different ideas, we see things and perceived differently. We act according to what we think is right and accepted. But, sometimes we would think that our partner is just a failure in the long run. We have forgotten that they, too, needed to speak of their own, say what they want, and express what they’re hiding inside – because sometimes, we forget to care. We are too good to judge our partner’s whole being instead of just simply tap his back, and would tell him “Hey… we can do this and it’s okay to not please everybody at times”. Be open for each other’s thoughts, feelings, and ideas (that may lead sometimes to funny arguments) LOL!
4. You fight dirty
For Pete’s sake, it’s really normal to argue or fight in a relationship. But sometimes, you lose control and you started yelling and nagging, and worse even name-calling (which of course is a no-no and you have missed the fair fight). When we’re angry, it’s too easy to slip into bad fighting tactics because you wanted to make him feel what you feel about what has been said. You thought it’s best to revenge and pull it off just to hurt your partner. If you’re doing this, cut it out! Who would want to hurt the one we love, anyway?
5. You focus more on what’s wrong rather than what’s right
Early stage of a relationship can show a generous understanding of one another, but it easily fades out when you allow yourself to lose focus on the things that would benefit the two of you rather than you alone.
Let me explain it further. When you were still 3-6 months into the relationship, you’re simply oblivious to your partner’s shortcomings and eventually ignore them. On the long run, when at times he failed you, you easily get irritated and intentionally made a tally on the bad side of him, that he’s getting boring, and simply a failure – a pile up of issues! You have overlooked the simple things that made you happy before because you were too focused on what he can’t and what he does.
It’s all about “what you focus” and how will you choose. Be considerate.
6. You lose respect for one another
Respect is very essential in holding relationships. As you remember before when you’re still dating as prospects in getting into relationships, you respect each other’s privacy. He opens up the door for her and led the way. She doesn’t tease him and mocks his masculinity. But for some reasons, some couples nowadays tend to be more superior to the other. Caused by so much closeness, sometimes, you forget how he feels when you jokingly called him something you thought was funny. On the other hand, [for men] you lose respect for her when you started to tell your friends about how she performs on bed or how you hate her when she sleeps. Well, anything that access your relationship’s privacy, and anything that goes below the belt. Do not do that!
7. Lack of communication
I have made a rule in communicating, especially with our love ones. It’s the pause, talk, and listen. I find this effective because it’s one best way to look at your partner and hear him out, know him better, how he reacts and what are his mannerisms and the like. Communication is one fundamental way to maintain a healthy relationship. So, when you don’t master this, you still have time to start it before losing someone on the picture.
You don’t have to say “We are so busy to talk about pleasures and love, we don’t have time for that yet”. Please, think again, because you will probably miss out the fun and intimacy together!
8. A sense of “caring for yourself” decreases
Part of falling in love ties an “amazing self”! You thought that’s funny when your friends would tell you “Why, you look amazing!” But yes indeed that’s true! Because you develop the sense of caring for yourself, dress up, and be good on your partner’s eyes and everybody that surrounds you. Unfortunately, when you stay together for years, sometimes you already forget how to look good and feel good because you would simply think “I’m fine with this” or “This will do” far from how you say in front of the mirror before “My, this lady is gorgeous!” Never forget the simple things that let others drawn their attraction for you because that would make your partner proud of! Of course!
9. You disregard the relationship as a priority
As you’ve been together for years, and when you work no more to sustain that spark you once have before, you were busy with your career to the point of going home and lie in bed immediately. The more you ignore your partner, your relationship, the more you can cause damage to it. You should know how to handle the two in balance! And you should never lose the priority of your relationship.
Of course, work is essential for living, but at the same time, relationship is essential for well being. Keep it!
10. You fail to embrace change
Change is inevitable. Instead of trying to change someone you have to realize that as time swifts, a person can change. You can change (for better or for worse). You cannot simply treat him the way you want to or be bossy in any way because what really matters is how the two of you handle the pressure over time and managed to be still.
Nobody wants to be forced on changing oneself, but everyone loves to be accepted and get helped. As you grow together, learn to accept your failures and work for the best kind of relationship that you could have, and even hold onto the coming adventures in the future! Embrace it and be ready for the possibilities life could offer.
Top 10 Biggest Mistakes Couples Make In Relationships | By: K.C.L Basco
Source: Lane Lamani Team
And as we go through it, I hope I could help you be aware of some things to be avoided. Here are 10 common mistakes couples make in their relationships:
1. You think dating is just for novices
How well do you know your partner ? Do you know each other so much that you think you’re already too cool for dating? Dating will always be part of your relationship because it’s one best way to help build stronger ties. Sometimes, you have thought that you’re too old to spend vacation alone, stroll around the plaza, or watch together each other’s favorite movie and laugh.
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2. You forget your individuality
In most cases, as I call it – before you met each other, “you were a thousand pieces intact”. Unfortunately, when you met that someone (you wished to be with) you unintentionally left your world – yourself. This should not happen, because as you wanted to share each other your differences, it can also give you some things to explore together. You should create more wonderful memories than actually forgetting the ones you have from the past.
You should hang out once in a while with your officemates, friends and families and never stress yourself out on the corner envying those who’s into relationship but still enjoys the company of their friends.
YOU [as an individual] are absolutely amazing! Please, do not forget that.
3. There’s no room for you to speak openly and just be
As we are made unique one from another, we have different ideas, we see things and perceived differently. We act according to what we think is right and accepted. But, sometimes we would think that our partner is just a failure in the long run. We have forgotten that they, too, needed to speak of their own, say what they want, and express what they’re hiding inside – because sometimes, we forget to care. We are too good to judge our partner’s whole being instead of just simply tap his back, and would tell him “Hey… we can do this and it’s okay to not please everybody at times”. Be open for each other’s thoughts, feelings, and ideas (that may lead sometimes to funny arguments) LOL!
4. You fight dirty
For Pete’s sake, it’s really normal to argue or fight in a relationship. But sometimes, you lose control and you started yelling and nagging, and worse even name-calling (which of course is a no-no and you have missed the fair fight). When we’re angry, it’s too easy to slip into bad fighting tactics because you wanted to make him feel what you feel about what has been said. You thought it’s best to revenge and pull it off just to hurt your partner. If you’re doing this, cut it out! Who would want to hurt the one we love, anyway?
5. You focus more on what’s wrong rather than what’s right
Early stage of a relationship can show a generous understanding of one another, but it easily fades out when you allow yourself to lose focus on the things that would benefit the two of you rather than you alone.
Let me explain it further. When you were still 3-6 months into the relationship, you’re simply oblivious to your partner’s shortcomings and eventually ignore them. On the long run, when at times he failed you, you easily get irritated and intentionally made a tally on the bad side of him, that he’s getting boring, and simply a failure – a pile up of issues! You have overlooked the simple things that made you happy before because you were too focused on what he can’t and what he does.
It’s all about “what you focus” and how will you choose. Be considerate.
6. You lose respect for one another
Respect is very essential in holding relationships. As you remember before when you’re still dating as prospects in getting into relationships, you respect each other’s privacy. He opens up the door for her and led the way. She doesn’t tease him and mocks his masculinity. But for some reasons, some couples nowadays tend to be more superior to the other. Caused by so much closeness, sometimes, you forget how he feels when you jokingly called him something you thought was funny. On the other hand, [for men] you lose respect for her when you started to tell your friends about how she performs on bed or how you hate her when she sleeps. Well, anything that access your relationship’s privacy, and anything that goes below the belt. Do not do that!
7. Lack of communication
I have made a rule in communicating, especially with our love ones. It’s the pause, talk, and listen. I find this effective because it’s one best way to look at your partner and hear him out, know him better, how he reacts and what are his mannerisms and the like. Communication is one fundamental way to maintain a healthy relationship. So, when you don’t master this, you still have time to start it before losing someone on the picture.
You don’t have to say “We are so busy to talk about pleasures and love, we don’t have time for that yet”. Please, think again, because you will probably miss out the fun and intimacy together!
8. A sense of “caring for yourself” decreases
Part of falling in love ties an “amazing self”! You thought that’s funny when your friends would tell you “Why, you look amazing!” But yes indeed that’s true! Because you develop the sense of caring for yourself, dress up, and be good on your partner’s eyes and everybody that surrounds you. Unfortunately, when you stay together for years, sometimes you already forget how to look good and feel good because you would simply think “I’m fine with this” or “This will do” far from how you say in front of the mirror before “My, this lady is gorgeous!” Never forget the simple things that let others drawn their attraction for you because that would make your partner proud of! Of course!
9. You disregard the relationship as a priority
As you’ve been together for years, and when you work no more to sustain that spark you once have before, you were busy with your career to the point of going home and lie in bed immediately. The more you ignore your partner, your relationship, the more you can cause damage to it. You should know how to handle the two in balance! And you should never lose the priority of your relationship.
Of course, work is essential for living, but at the same time, relationship is essential for well being. Keep it!
10. You fail to embrace change
Change is inevitable. Instead of trying to change someone you have to realize that as time swifts, a person can change. You can change (for better or for worse). You cannot simply treat him the way you want to or be bossy in any way because what really matters is how the two of you handle the pressure over time and managed to be still.
Nobody wants to be forced on changing oneself, but everyone loves to be accepted and get helped. As you grow together, learn to accept your failures and work for the best kind of relationship that you could have, and even hold onto the coming adventures in the future! Embrace it and be ready for the possibilities life could offer.
Top 10 Biggest Mistakes Couples Make In Relationships | By: K.C.L Basco
Source: Lane Lamani Team
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