Are you positively sure you are ready? If the answer is “no”, then don’t get married. If the answer is “maybe”, then don’t get married. If t...
Are you positively sure you are ready? If the answer is “no”, then don’t get married. If the answer is “maybe”, then don’t get married. If the answer is “yes”, good, then proceed to the next question. Are you absolutely, honestly positive you are ready to get married?
So before you say your vows and spend lots of money in planning your wedding, here are five things you might want to consider before marriage:
Get a job! Or at least a stable source of income. Money and handling finances can sometimes be the cause of fights among married couples. Although men usually wear the pants, it also helps for women to have a career. Study shows that it is beneficial for the marriage if the woman also works for the family. Divorce rate is considerably lower in places where at least 70 % of married women have occupations outside of their homes.
Get into fights. Not intentionally though. Let’s face it, fights and arguments can’t be avoided in any relationship, no matter how much you are in love with each other. Couples, who don’t have any conflicts, are the couple who doesn’t really talk. Ignoring conflicts and issues doesn’t solve anything; instead it builds them up, eats you up from the inside until it gets too big and you just fall apart. Getting into fights with your partner, you both learn how to handle and settle your conflicts, which is an important key in maintaining relationships. Talk it out, without the shouting or putting blame.
Spend time with his family. You are not only marrying the love of your life, you’ll also be marrying the other love of his life, the family. Seeing how your potential partner interacts with his family will give you an idea of how he will treat you when you start a family of your own or if you have similar family values. Since, you can potentially become part of the family, then you must get to know them a little bit better. And if you have issues with the family or the family have issues with the both of you, you might want to settle it before getting married. You don’t really need to love and worship your in-laws, but at least maintain a respectful relationship with them. That goes for your partner as well.
Reveal any secrets. If you have any skeletons hiding in the closet, better take them out now. Honesty and trust is crucial in building a lasting relationship. So before you ask that million dollar question or accept that ring, make sure you have not been keeping any secrets from your partner. Even if you say it’s all in the past now, It may come back to haunt you, it will probably catch your partner off guard, which isn’t good. You will break his trust and you will have a hard time getting it back.
Know yourself. Do you have the same set of values? Or are your goals in tune with his? If you still have issues with yourself, you might want to work on it before you commit. You cannot enter into marriage broken and hopefully let your union cure you of your personal problems. Don’t sweep them under the rug either, your issues will just gather and you’ll have a hard time facing them. It is also important that you do not lose yourself in the process of loving your partner. Having a life outside of marriage and spending a little time apart from your partner, oddly enough helps in maintaining your relationship. It also helps to avoid being too reliant on your partner, emotionally and physically.
These things will not guarantee the success of your marriage, but it will help you get the idea that marriage must not be taken too lightly. Love is essential, yes, but it is not the only thing you need for it to last. It takes work and commitment to achieve your happily ever after. LaneLamani Team
So before you say your vows and spend lots of money in planning your wedding, here are five things you might want to consider before marriage:
Get a job! Or at least a stable source of income. Money and handling finances can sometimes be the cause of fights among married couples. Although men usually wear the pants, it also helps for women to have a career. Study shows that it is beneficial for the marriage if the woman also works for the family. Divorce rate is considerably lower in places where at least 70 % of married women have occupations outside of their homes.
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Spend time with his family. You are not only marrying the love of your life, you’ll also be marrying the other love of his life, the family. Seeing how your potential partner interacts with his family will give you an idea of how he will treat you when you start a family of your own or if you have similar family values. Since, you can potentially become part of the family, then you must get to know them a little bit better. And if you have issues with the family or the family have issues with the both of you, you might want to settle it before getting married. You don’t really need to love and worship your in-laws, but at least maintain a respectful relationship with them. That goes for your partner as well.
Reveal any secrets. If you have any skeletons hiding in the closet, better take them out now. Honesty and trust is crucial in building a lasting relationship. So before you ask that million dollar question or accept that ring, make sure you have not been keeping any secrets from your partner. Even if you say it’s all in the past now, It may come back to haunt you, it will probably catch your partner off guard, which isn’t good. You will break his trust and you will have a hard time getting it back.
Know yourself. Do you have the same set of values? Or are your goals in tune with his? If you still have issues with yourself, you might want to work on it before you commit. You cannot enter into marriage broken and hopefully let your union cure you of your personal problems. Don’t sweep them under the rug either, your issues will just gather and you’ll have a hard time facing them. It is also important that you do not lose yourself in the process of loving your partner. Having a life outside of marriage and spending a little time apart from your partner, oddly enough helps in maintaining your relationship. It also helps to avoid being too reliant on your partner, emotionally and physically.
These things will not guarantee the success of your marriage, but it will help you get the idea that marriage must not be taken too lightly. Love is essential, yes, but it is not the only thing you need for it to last. It takes work and commitment to achieve your happily ever after. LaneLamani Team
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