Love is so powerful. It can change the way you see things, the way you talk, the way you think, the way you act over stuffs. It magically se...
Love is so powerful. It can change the way you see things, the way you talk, the way you think, the way you act over stuffs. It magically sees all the good things out of every mess; all the bright sides out of the dark ages; all the advantages out of a clear disadvantage.
This is why it is, unfortunately, the most wasted resources. And what’s more tragic is the fact that, some relationships have become parasitic.
It will be difficult for you to find out if you have been tagging along a parasite or not, especially when love gets you blinded (well, love isn’t really blind, it sees but it doesn’t mind). So I have patiently listed some of the obvious signs that you are being used in a relationship:
1. Your partner is disrespectful. Love is not just the butterflies in your stomach or the hormones surging through your veins. The key ingredient for love is mutual respect. If your relationship is abusive in any manner, it is as good as nonexistent. If mutual respect towards each other’s existence, interests, profession, contribution to the relationship, time, space, bodies or anything else does not exist, then you are just either counting the days until you get sick of each other and break up or get stuck in that place with no more options coming anymore.
2. Your relationship is a secret. I don’t see any way to hide a relationship. If you’re together, act, be and show that you are together. There is no such thing as together mentally. You don’t hug mentally, kiss mentally, or talk mentally. If this is an excuse for privacy, well think again. Privacy is different from secrecy. If you think being set into private mode is sweet, I’m telling you, this might be a starting sign of abuse.
3. You are under the rules. Okay, let me get this straight, rules are only as good as the maker. Make sure that when your partner makes the rules, he/she is the first to observe it and not make it effective only to you. Rules in a relationship should be basic and effective for both parties. When this is deviated, then take an action.
4. You are always the last resort. As unfair as it could be, we should be the first, or at least after the family, to know about anything our partner is into. This is easy and a natural drill for all loving couples. But then you become the last to know, and what’s worst is finding it out from some other people, instead of your partner.
5. He/she goes MIA when things are tough. He/she is only for the good times. All relationships, for it to last longer, should require both partners to stick through the good and bad times. So when your partner goes MIA when you’re in trouble, you might want to reconsider his/her connection with you.
6. He/she asks too much of everything. Okay. This is gross. You become a milking cow. Your partner asks anything from you; shoes, food, wardrobe, gadgets or whatever. Don’t let this happen. Or if it is happening already, take necessary actions.
7. Money is an issue. It is by far said that money is one of the root causes of evil, and relationships are not exempted. When money becomes a necessary part of your partner’s happiness and enjoyment, to the point that he/she no longer finds your journey happy without asking you some cash for anything he’s/she’s up to, don’t hesitate to confront him/her. This is a very delicate issue and the most serious sign of abuse.
There is no perfect relationship. When you are in some way or another experiencing these kinds of stuffs, and you still want to save it, it’s not yet too late. But if you have been under these bad feels for quite some time, I suggest you free yourself. Either way, I’m sure you will be able to bring you and your partner to a better place.
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This is why it is, unfortunately, the most wasted resources. And what’s more tragic is the fact that, some relationships have become parasitic.
It will be difficult for you to find out if you have been tagging along a parasite or not, especially when love gets you blinded (well, love isn’t really blind, it sees but it doesn’t mind). So I have patiently listed some of the obvious signs that you are being used in a relationship:
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| Signs You Are Being Used in A Relationship. |
2. Your relationship is a secret. I don’t see any way to hide a relationship. If you’re together, act, be and show that you are together. There is no such thing as together mentally. You don’t hug mentally, kiss mentally, or talk mentally. If this is an excuse for privacy, well think again. Privacy is different from secrecy. If you think being set into private mode is sweet, I’m telling you, this might be a starting sign of abuse.
3. You are under the rules. Okay, let me get this straight, rules are only as good as the maker. Make sure that when your partner makes the rules, he/she is the first to observe it and not make it effective only to you. Rules in a relationship should be basic and effective for both parties. When this is deviated, then take an action.
4. You are always the last resort. As unfair as it could be, we should be the first, or at least after the family, to know about anything our partner is into. This is easy and a natural drill for all loving couples. But then you become the last to know, and what’s worst is finding it out from some other people, instead of your partner.
5. He/she goes MIA when things are tough. He/she is only for the good times. All relationships, for it to last longer, should require both partners to stick through the good and bad times. So when your partner goes MIA when you’re in trouble, you might want to reconsider his/her connection with you.
6. He/she asks too much of everything. Okay. This is gross. You become a milking cow. Your partner asks anything from you; shoes, food, wardrobe, gadgets or whatever. Don’t let this happen. Or if it is happening already, take necessary actions.
7. Money is an issue. It is by far said that money is one of the root causes of evil, and relationships are not exempted. When money becomes a necessary part of your partner’s happiness and enjoyment, to the point that he/she no longer finds your journey happy without asking you some cash for anything he’s/she’s up to, don’t hesitate to confront him/her. This is a very delicate issue and the most serious sign of abuse.
There is no perfect relationship. When you are in some way or another experiencing these kinds of stuffs, and you still want to save it, it’s not yet too late. But if you have been under these bad feels for quite some time, I suggest you free yourself. Either way, I’m sure you will be able to bring you and your partner to a better place.
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